Today is the 36th anniversary of Roe v. Wade, the court decision that stated (among other things) that the right to abortion was covered under our existing right to privacy, and was therefore legal. In the last 36 years, this decision has remained a hot topic of debate. Extremists on both sides have fueled a culture war with all-or-nothing, black-and-white rhetoric.
I was born after this historic decision was made. I have lived my entire life in a place where abortion is legal and relatively safe. I have never experienced the reality of back-alley procedures or dangerous and desperate acts that pro-choice proponents like to cite. I have had access to birth control, condoms, and abortion. I have always felt in control of my body.
Even having grown up in this environment, I was constantly aware that there was a rather large number of people who didn’t believe that I should have this control or these choices. It scared me, and still does.
This is not a black and white issue as many people would like to make it out to be. When I was 5 months pregnant with a very wanted, much loved baby boy, I learned through unltrasounds that he had some very serious medical problems. I was told he may not live, may not walk, may be severely mentally handicapped, may not even have a brain. If he did survive the birth, he would need immediate surgery to survive his first week.
And I chose to carry the child to term. I had to cut my five day work week back to three in order to drive an hour away twice a week for fetal monitoring. I spent lots of time learning about our options under the current medicaid and medicare programs, as well as other state programs that could help with everything from developmental therapy to grocery money. In some cases, I had to fight very hard to get the assisstance that I was entitled to under the law.
I was incredibly lucky that I was able to take so much time off work, to have the transportation to get to and from all the offices and hospitals I had to visit, and to have the support of a large family all around me. Their support, physical, emotional, and financial, made it possible for me to make it through a high-risk birth, three surgeries, and after 14 short, glorious months, a funeral.
And I’d do it all again, too.
I could have aborted my pregnancy. And there were quite a few people who thought that I should. I’m pro-choice, all the way down to my toes, and faced with my personal choice, I chose to carry my son to term and accept the higher costs and responsibilities that come with high-risk babies.
Years later, faced with an unplanned pregnancy by a man I had only been dating for a few months, and many miles away from friends and family, I again chose to continue the pregnancy. I’d do that again too.
Do I believe that every woman should keep every pregnancy regardless of medical, financial, or personal circumstances? Absolutely not. Would I ever choose to get an abortion? Probably not. But I get to make the decision for myself. And I will fight for that right, and am proud to celebrate 36 years of Roe v. Wade.